Finally, the legislature has created an atmosphere of “marriage equality” here in New York State and the Albany NY area. This law being passed means that a whole new demographic of customers will soon enter the market in the wedding industry. DJ Kenny Casanova and www.TheDJservice.com are happy for our future customers. However, we want to caution same sex couples not to give into “hurry up” pressure by the media to rush into marriage without planning now just because you legally can.
Media Drools for a Gay Mob to Break Down Doors of David's Bridal
By the looks of things, people in the media seem to be trying to create a sense of urgency since the law passed on July 23rd. It seems like they are waiting for a big story of epic proportion that isn’t going to happen. I think they really are waiting for a gay mob of brightly dressed stereotypical homosexual couples and Cher impersonators to break down the doors at David’s Bridal in Colonie. Well, I hate to say it, but as good for TV ratings as this may be, this isn’t going to happen.
Since we passed the ground-breaking law that allows members of the same sex to get married, it seems that day in and day out, the media continues to ask both in print and on the television the same exact question… “Why are there not thousands of people taking advantage of this great opportunity?”
THE LAW JUST PASSED! Think about it. Nobody can plan a great wedding in a few weeks! There are so many different things to think about that you cannot just rush into:
SPECIAL MEANING: It is not a secret that there are many different components pertaining to time that you have to look if you want to have a decent wedding. I am sure that members of New York’s gay community do not want to rush their special day, simply because they can, and certainly not to get their mugs on News Channel 9 for thirty seconds. The fundamental reason many same-sex couples want to get married is because the idea is that marriage is supposed to mean something. It is a special day and one that often involves loved ones. In order to make all this happen, a lot of planning has to go down.
As different as the media might think gay people are, they have the same concerns about their wedding day as anyone else would. Gay people who care about being married will also care about how their weddings come off. The ones who wanted to rush to get married, probably already are after a quick drive to Vermont.
DJ OR BAND BOOKING: As the Rolling Stones once said, “You can’t always get what you want.” I would argue, you can sometimes, if you are patient and can wait it out. It typically takes couples around six to twelve months at the very minimum to plan a successful wedding. Whenever you book a Disc Jockey or band for a wedding, most of the decent ones are booked a year ahead. (We are already booking up next summer, and this one isn’t even half gone. If someone calls right now, I personally do not have any Saturday time slots available at all until November, so my partner is picking up the slack.)
VENUE BOOKING: Various venues, banquet halls and catering/food services are also dealing with full plates, no pun intended. Most of their desirable dates are grabbed up at wedding shows and open houses that take place a season prior to the actual event’s proposed date.
From experience, couples always buy into “wedding prime time.” Most want to get married on a Saturday in the summer, because of the great weather and the lack of scheduling conflicts that this time brings to the table. However, popular wedding reception halls only have limited slots available. If the couple is gay or not and really wants to get married at Franklin Terrace in Troy, NY, for example, Franklin’s only has eight couples they can book for the eight weeks in July and August months.
INVITING GUESTS: Finally, if you rush your wedding, not everyone can make it. Your guests need advance notice just like anybody else. Most friends and family really need at least 3 to 6 months notice in advance. This is even more especially so in the busy summer months when people have their vacation time carefully mapped out. My wife and I planned our wedding about a year out, and we still had a few close friends who really wanted to be there for us but they could not show, due to conflicts in schedules! (Chris, man, you are still a bastard!)
Therefore Mister Media, you can’t plan your special day in a few weeks. Calm down. You got your midnight wedding 12:01 stories on the day that the law went into effect. Stop drooling for something that isn’t going to happen in droves. We have only had eleven couples in the area get hitched in same sex weddings since the law passed. This is about right.
I know it would have made for better TV if a thousand homosexuals in drag came out screaming to say, “I do,” but it didn’t work that way, and it won’t.
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